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Why don't boys move on easily after a breakup even a decade later?

I think it is due to the attachment and unfulfilled expectations. Everyone deserves to be loved and to be happy. But it really pains if you love someone so truly from the bottom of your heart and it goes unrequited. You will never completely move on if you ever truly loved her, but you will have to start living with it. Memories don't hurt. Love doesn't hurt. It is the attachment that hurts. It is the expectation that hurts. It is the imagined future that is now broken that hurts. When we lose someone that we love so truly and they walk out of your life for some reason, it hurts. This doesn't mean memories will haunt us. It is the collapsed future that hurts us. Living in the past with the ones we love brings us tears, not because that is lost, but because there was something that could have been forever, but it isn't now. That hurts. That stings and we tend to associate it with good memories. Sometimes we love people more than the memories they gave us. We fall for the

Why don't boys move on easily after a breakup even a decade later?

I think it is due to the attachment and unfulfilled expectations. Everyone deserves to be loved and to be happy. But it really pains if you love someone so truly from the bottom of your heart and it goes unrequited. You will never completely move on if you ever truly loved her, but you will have to start living with it.


Memories don't hurt. Love doesn't hurt. It is the attachment that hurts. It is the expectation that hurts. It is the imagined future that is now broken that hurts.


When we lose someone that we love so truly and they walk out of your life for some reason, it hurts. This doesn't mean memories will haunt us. It is the collapsed future that hurts us. Living in the past with the ones we love brings us tears, not because that is lost, but because there was something that could have been forever, but it isn't now. That hurts. That stings and we tend to associate it with good memories. Sometimes we love people more than the memories they gave us. We fall for the person, not just for the memories. We love, we live life to create beautiful memories for us and for the loved ones around us.


Expectations hurt in proportion to the emotional investment. Whenever we are too much attached to someone or something, we grow attachment and that attachment leads to expectations. These expectations when fulfilled is an awesome experience. But when we are too much emotionally invested and when those dreams aren't coming true, it stings and hurts and kills from within.


Getting over it is by forgiving and moving on with life accepting that you will never get over that true love. Forgiveness is your trait. It solely depends on you and not on the other person. You want to forgive them because you want peace of mind and don't want to hold grudges against anyone in your life.


Forgive because you have a strong heart. Forgive because you are strong.


Strongest people are those who forgive people who aren’t even sorry for hurting you.


Forgive but don’t forget the lessons learnt.

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